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Cunnilingus and the Golden Button
by Maris Lemieux
We have a magic button mentality that certainly extends into the bedroom. Find the magic button and press. It’s like sex is about "bingo or boingo," binary, like a computer. But sex is varied and multifarious. Right now try to call up about 5 of your greatest sexual experiences into your memory banks... Ahhh. That’s it.
Now, were these experiences all the same? Were they even with the same person? Or the same profile of person? Did they all involve the same body part(s)? The same type of stimulation? Did they all last the same amount of time? You get the picture.
One of the sexual activities that really loses out to this quest for the golden button is the practice of good cunnilingus. For starters, let’s get those who think cunnilingus is about inserting tongue into vagina on the same page: Vaginas are fun and have their sensitive moments, but generally, they’re a neurological dead zone.
Good cunnilingus doesn’t stay in the same place anyway. It roves. It’s pointy tongue, flat tongue and lips. And with lips, it’s sucking, drooling, pecking, pinching. Put on your explorer’s cap, or better yet, your cartographer’s cap -- close your eyes and pretend you’re trying to create a map in your head of every fold, mount, ridge, and nub in her lush vulva garden. Take big swabs of it in your mouth, then take little throbs. Blow, against the skin, hum against the skin, blow air.
Yes, there is a golden nub, and for those who don’t know where that nub is, it’s at the top of the upside down V of her pussy. It starts right where the skin of her pussy lips breaks and opens. The clitoris is actually a wishbone shaped thing that extends into her body, a bit of its shaft (like the part of the wishbone you hold between thumb and forefinger) sits at her lips’ parting and is covered in skin (the hood). If you pull back on that hood, like the foreskin of a cock, it sort of lets a head pop out, a mini version of the cock’s mushroom head. This bared nub can actually be so sensitive as to be counterproductive. In other words, with some women you may actually be better not knowing it’s there. Running your tongue up and down the shaft can be the way to go in a larger number of cases. Running it up one side and down the other. In fact if you think of this apparatus like a mini, more sensitive and more delicate cock, your imagination may take you easily into good cunnilingus, as far as the "golden nub" approach goes.
However, we are still missing something in great cunnilingus, something that cannot be transferred simply by imagining and duplicating the steps to good head. When giving head, the hands are always on standby near or busily employed by the genitals. Hands are a lot more necessary to fellatio than to cunnilingus. In giving head, the hands help to tighten the seal of the lips around his cock; they also help to lengthen the reach of sensation to cover the whole cock shaft, etc. But women, being compact and all, don’t require so much attention from the hands -- especially once they’ve pried her lips open and your face is buried inside. And quite fortuitously, women’s bodies drink up all kinds sensations that hands can provide -- from nurturing to stimulating.
Because hand work is so rare, it is where the hands go, not the tongue, that separates workable cunnilingus from most excellent cunnilingus. Many muff divers get their faces buried in pussy and forget about the other 98% of the body it’s attached to.
So while you’re down there sucking, tugging and lapping at labial folds and clitoral hood, reach up into Greater Planet Woman with your hands. Picture a broader canvas. Her nipples are especially sensitive; and the more finely-tuned your tongue is on her clit, the more sensitive her nipples will get. This means that if you get the combo action going, your cunnilingus is going to be extremely memorable. Fondle her breasts. Play with her nipples, brush her nipples, tug on her nipples, circle her nipples with your fingers or hands.
Women are also quite susceptible to caresses. As she’s moaning and you’re eating, it’s easy to let the excitement get you going faster and harder. Once again, it’s hands? What hands? Try splitting your tempos; that is, while your tongue is doing the nasty speed lick, move your hands slowly from under her arm pits, across her breasts (teasingly missing the nips) and langorously down to her belly where you give her a soft circular rub before wandering lazily across her hips and back up under her arms. The more of her body you cover with your hands, the broader her experience. Spread her body-awareness out -- reach down and massage her toes, reach up and run your hands through her hair, tap at her mons, brush her cheek, squeeze her ass cheeks -- give her the sense that you’re all over her, that no part of her is hidden from your touch. Then you’re guaranteed to give her a 5-foot come instead of a three-inch come.
In the beginning, we talked about how very different our great sex experiences can be. Once you get the idea of using your hands, of closing your eyes and creating a visual map of the total woman, not just the cunt and the wet bits, you’re ready to get sophisticated. As you move your hands about, pay close attention to the lady’s breathing (and if she’s not exaggerating, her moans and groans help too). Breath is probably the least noticed reaction, and yet it’s probably the most reliable in letting you know what’s going on with her. A quickened breath, a held breath, these are clues that your attentions are changing her chemistry for the better.
Get your tongue into a slow, rhythmic pattern on her clit (or at her hole for a longer tease), and this will give you time to play her body with your hands and pay attention to her tiniest reactions. Watch, listen, smell. Does she pull in her tummy? (good sign) Do her nipples harden? (good sign) Are you finding a lot of her pussy juice mixed in with your saliva? (good sign) When you touch her in a certain place, do you find her body moving up to meet your touch? (good sign) Every woman has different sensitive spots, a sensitive partner paying close attention to her body feedback, can find and use those spots to enhance the experience. Set yourself a goal of finding at least one unique pleasure point on your partner.
The edge in cunnilingus is not how hard you hit the sweet spot, but how far and wide you extend the ripples of excitement that come from that sweet spot. When imagining hot and heavy cunnilingus, everyone thinks tongue. But the wise muff diver thinks hands as well.
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